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Pardon my typographical errors and the long epistle.
So, for about 3 months now I’ve been off and on with this girl from my college.
I really like this girl, but the big problem here is that she’s not over her ex, and so after her calling me her “boyfriend” for about a month she realized that she wasn’t “emotionally available” and so she broke up with me.
However, later that same day she said she missed me and asked for me to stay over, which I did.
For the month following, we would get into these cycles where she would want to spend all this time with me and kiss me and snuggle and do normal GF bf stuff, but then she would pull away later and affirm that we weren’t dating and should act like friends, which then lead to her asking me to spend the night shortly after.
One day she decided to totally cut it off, but then drunk texted me and wanted me to walk her home 2 days later, which I did.
In the past 2-3 weeks, I’ve recognized these cycles and have become more distant, and as a result, she’s become way more emotionally attached.
She wants to see me and do “bf gf stuff” way more often than before and texts me constantly (the cycles in large part have stopped).
However, I’m getting tired of not being in a committed relationship, and I thought she might be getting over him.
Just now I had a talk with her to ask if she was getting over him, and she said that she “didn’t know”.
She tells me all the time that she would never get back with her ex, since he was “an asshole and emotionally abusive”.
She just misses him, apparently. I probably should have cut this off a long time ago, but I really like her and I don’t know what to do. Advice?
All insults will be accepted, but, I need urgent mature advice.
I Need Your Advice